October 16, 2025
Article highlights:
- feelings are energy, not things
- emotion is meant to transform
- 5 simple steps
A simple truth:
You don’t need to fix all of your emotions.
We think we do — the “bad” ones anyway. The fear, the anger, the low ones, the ones that threaten to capsize us. We feel we need to fix those. And we get judgey with ourselves about them, don’t we?
The thing is, we can’t really fix them. That’s the truth. But what’s funny about that truth is it doesn’t feel true at the time difficult emotions arise. So we start trying to fix them right away.
We do this by:
- Telling ourselves we shouldn’t feel that way… we get judgey
- Pushing them away, denying them
- Blaming someone for them
- Second-guessing them or doubting ourselves
- Calling them something else, mislabeling them
- Distracting ourselves
If these fixing tactics work at all, it’s always temporary. Because feelings aren’t a project. Feelings are transient emotional moments. They are neither wrong nor right because they are not things.
Feelings are energy. Not things. They are energy asking to be noticed. Acknowledged. Allowed to change. Feelings are energy in movement, energy that flows. Emotion is energy that wants to move, and pass along.
Emotion doesn’t do well when blocked up — it needs to move and transform. In fact, that is the purpose of our emotional energy: transformation.
Let’s say that again: The purpose of our emotional energy is transformation.
When our “feeling” energy is super strong — especially when it is uncomfortable — what’s the best thing to do?
- Breathe.
- Acknowledge.
- Speak what is true, in the most simple way.
- Ask it to transform itself and you in that moment and restore you.
- Bless it to move on.
What does that look like? For me it looks like this:
I take a breath or two, to notice that something has made me uncomfortable, maybe I’m not sure what. I say, “Ugh, I feel anxious right now and I’m not sure why.” I pause to breathe again, inviting it to show itself to me. Then I might say,
“Oh! When that person said that a minute ago I thought they were judging me. I feel afraid of that. I feel threatened and afraid. And there’s anger licking at the edges of the feeling because I want to protect myself.” Then I might continue:
“What’s really tough is I don’t really know if they were judging me or not. But I notice I often don’t feel safe with them. I’m glad I noticed my feeling of anxiety so I can understand better. And think about my choices. Thanks for that.” Next I move into this stage:
“Now that the anxious feelings have let me see what I need to, I ask the anxious energy to transform itself in my body and become a calming energy. OK… good, but a little more please. There! That’s much better, I’ll be able to walk it off now.”
Feelings are energy. All energy is subject to consciousness. Awareness of the energy allows me to bring my conscious intent to it. Energy can and will follow our intent. But this requires self-knowledge. Do you see?
Emotions don’t ask us to make them feel better. They ask us to pay attention and make choices.
Right now, reading this, that seems simple. However, when fear or anger strike it likely will not seem simple at all. But the steps will help the energy move, shift, and transform:
- Breathe.
- Acknowledge.
- Speak what is true, in the most simple way.
- Ask it to transform itself and you in that moment and restore you.
- Bless it to move on.
Five little steps that work a treat. Though sometimes we have to repeat them again right away, hehe.
Like I’ve said before, being human can be tricky — but luckily we’re getting the hang of it.
Big hugs today,
And Love,
💗 Mayet
