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self absolutionDear Judge and Jury,

The accused stands on trial, the prosecutor hurls accusations, questions, and ridicule.  Witnesses speak in condemnation against the accused.  Few, if any come forward in defense.  Even the defense attorney seems defeated.  The jury appears openly disapproving, sure to deliver a guilty verdict.  The judge looks stern and not at all inclined toward clemency.

Ever wonder about the immense popularity of courtroom dramas?  We have a huge appetite for watching the guilty be convicted with certainty and skill, the innocent found innocent after all.  Why?  Perhaps it is because that’s what’s going on inside our heads with some frequency.  It’s a courtroom in there!  There’s a strong urge to judge and feel judged.  We also long to be absolved.

Judging, case-building, sentencing, arguing a case over and over – we’re all engaged in that a lot in our own minds.  We are looking at others and deciding about them, judging.  Or feeling judged by them.  And most of all we are putting our own poor selves on trial again and again.  

Or we are assessing and doing discovery about what is right, who is wrong, where the proof is.  Truly, sometimes that’s the majority of what is on the docket in our heads.  As well, we are justifying and counter-criticizing.  And so often we are seeking self-absolution by holding protracted mental arguments with another.  It’s beyond exhausting.  It’s a massive drain on our energy, time and resources. And erosive to our health.

We want to stop, right?  Well, I’ve learned  it can be easier than we have been taught.  There is a fine bit of art and magic involved in self-absolution.  The simple truth of it is this: once we realize what we’re up to we can dismiss the trial preemptively any time we like.  

We can let ourselves off the hook, give ourselves a get-out-of-trial-free card immediately.  In truth, we are both judge and jury, we are accused and accuser, we have the power then to dismiss everyone and send them all home.  It is time to begin this in earnest.  How?

A Case for Self-Absolution

What happens when I harshly judge something about myself as wrong or negative, when I give myself a guilty sentence?  I separate that part off from myself, isolating it from my wholeness.  I create fractured aspects of me.  Each becomes like a little splinter that pains for care and attention.  When I refuse to acknowledge it, it whines louder or stomps and rants around causing havoc in my life.

All it wants is to be recognized as part of the whole, instead of judged and isolated.  It just wants to be loved. That’s how to integrate things – with loving care.  There’s an art to locating and loving the judged part of ourselves. It’s the magical quest of learning who we are.  The art of self-acceptance and the magic of self-discovery.  Art and magic.  What could be more fun!  And the rewards are amazing – self-absolution is the key to ascension.

So, dear Judge and Jury, there’s really good news about judgment day.  It’s canceled.  Love is standing up for you and court is dismissed.  Go home and snuggle up with yourself, every bit of you, and love the whole of you, no one’s getting judged today!

Love only, love always,
Mayet MaHulili Leilani
PS – It works with other people too, you can just close up court and set them free, it sets you both free.

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