Article Highlights:

• Getting it straight about Love
• The effortlessness of Unconditional Love
• Satisfying the longing

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Dear lover of Love,

We all know that unconditional love is The Thing, right? We all probably aspire to giving unconditional love. We all probably think we should do that all the time. We may secretly criticize ourselves for not doing that well enough.

We have many ideas about this, most of them less than fully conscious, many probably untrue. We’ve learned about unconditionality over lifetimes from this or that spiritual teacher or author or belief system. Because most belief systems have dictates and teachings about unconditional love, don’t they?

These range from “turn the other cheek” to “love thy neighbor,” to the idea that unconditional love is part and parcel of enlightenment. And the idea that if you don’t feel unconditional love, you aren’t there yet. Hmmm.

What is true – and what isn’t – about unconditional love? I wrote an article here a while back in which I shared a young memory of seeing someone with a small baby in church, gazing so lovingly into the child’s face with utter devotion. What I remembered was my own recognition of that as a “bigger” love. And I remembered my longing to have that directed at me.

It’s a longing every human shares, one that never fully leaves us and for most is not fully satisfied either. And my guess is that within all the songs and poems about it, all the attempts at love, the root is probably our longing for unconditional love – a steadier, deeper, more pure experience of loving and being loved.

Early in a relationship, we may feel unconditionally loved by our partner, we may feel unconditionally loving toward them. When our children are young we may find it easier to love them unconditionally.

However, as relationships progress, as young humans grow, as people fulfill fewer of our expectations, we begin to see that… well.. love is complicated when it comes to unconditionality.

This is discouraging, isn’t it? Perhaps confusing too. Time and again it seems unconditional love fails us, or we fail it. And with that, our relationships often fail to satisfy our hopes and expectations for love.

This is difficult for all human beings, but perhaps especially for people who are spiritually inclined. We feel we, or others, should surely be making more progress in this by now. What is missing In this equation? How do we get there?

For me, the journey toward unconditional loving has been nothing I’d imagined it to be. So much so that in the beginning I didn’t even realize that was what was happening! Today I want to share what it’s really been like because a clearer understanding of this has been a game changer for me.

We all know by now that Love is the essence of all things. Thinking about that, one soon realizes it means that unconditional love is itself. Not something else to be acquired or arrived at by our effort. It is that which flows through all things. It need not, therefore, be sought out or achieved. Because it is already here, there, and everywhere.

It need not be sought because unconditional Love is always seeking us, finding us.

As we grow in light, in spirit, as we progress on our paths, it is increasingly more obvious in our field. It becomes more expressive in our actions. This happens automatically, naturally. So naturally that, as I said, I didn’t recognize it by its name in the beginning.

Many years ago now, the first signal I had that unconditional love was growing in me was when I looked at someone who seemed utterly unlikeable and without warning saw such beauty in his face that it seemed my heart would burst for love of him. I felt so surprised!

Then a little later, I had a feeling that someone was talking behind my back, I strongly felt someone didn’t like me. I was perplexed until, in a moment of illumination, I remember that I’d gossiped to a friend about someone.

What I realized in this moment was life-changing for me. I’d unfairly criticized another and I couldn’t distinguish how that felt to me from how it would have felt to them if they had known. I felt like I had done it unto me. I felt as though someone were talking behind my back, I felt someone didn’t like me instead of the other way around. (more…)

Article Highlights:

• A surprising revelation about my pattern
• A special message from the ancestors

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You can read about my brand new session in full here, it’s discounted $30. Or scroll to the end of this article for a brief description of all the sessions I offer.

I had a surprising development re: my tooth. I mentioned it to one of my brothers and he reminded me that my namesake, mom’s favorite sister, had died of a tooth abscess.

I knew the family story about my aunt of course, and how difficult that loss had been for mom. There were details that were missing though and when I searched them out I was rather amazed at what I found.

From an older relative I learned that Mother’s sister was 17 when this occurred. That’s the age I was when this pattern first entered my own experience. My aunt’s was a tooth infection that developed into an abscess, like mine.

Though penicillin had been discovered in 1928, it was not mass produced until1940, the war having created an urgent need for this. Sadly, however, that was some years after my aunt died of the tooth abscess.

I also learned it happened at a difficult time in their family regarding mom and her sister leaving home. Remember, the BioDecoding “message” of the specific tooth for me was conflict with authority figures or father regarding how you want to present yourself and your work in the world.
My guides had told me my abscess had a family component that was tied not only to my family experience in this life, but to my mother’s family line. And it’s easy to realize that women of my mother’s generation and earlier were very limited in how they were allowed to go out into the world. Easy to see then that my abscess was related to this for my mother, her sister and then me.

I was apparently carrying this unresolved pain of my mother and aunt. It was illuminating to understand that she and her sister were also apparently carrying a generational pattern associated with leaving home and putting themselves forward in the world. One that manifested in their tragedy but that originated earlier in their own ancestral line. Many females have been affected by this pattern before me.

Luckily both dentistry and medicine are more advanced and my infection was not life-threatening. But the pattern is real enough and the opportunity for ancestral healing is an important factor in what and why this is happening for me.

That’s why I said I was looking forward to the first ceremony in the 4-month course – ceremonial work is among the most effective for resolving ancestral issues. Our particular ceremony works deeply in the 7 layers of one’s being, including the ancestral layer. I’ll report on happenings around that ceremony for me, if I think they’re of interest here. (more…)

Article Highlights:

• I have a tooth ache.  Again.
• What’s behind it?
• What to do about it?

You can read about my up-coming 4-month course here.   

You can read about my brand new session in full here, it’s discounted $30.  Or scroll to the end of this article for a brief description of all the sessions I offer.
Dear fellow pattern-buster,

Well, as often happens, when you get ready to teach or offer something, that topic shows up in your life to talk to you, lol.  In my case, it’s in the form of a tooth ache!  Yikes. In fact, it even delayed this blog getting to on Thursday.

Teeth problems are rife in both my family history and my own experience.  And along with good dental care I have sometimes needed to decode what’s behind that history to overcome chronic dental issues.

In the case of this most recent tooth ache, it relates to the new 4-month course I’m offering.  And it relates in a way that I think will interest everyone, whether or not you’re taking the course.  That’s why I’m sharing it here.

Along with those of you joining in the course with me, we’re beginning with clearing old energy and patterns.  Our September live zoom event includes a very profound ceremony to clear old patterns, rebalance and upgrade our fields.  

So of course an old pattern shows up to talk to me about old patterns.  Since it’s something we all are facing, I thought I’d at least briefly share my tooth pattern specifics, given the amount of “the old” a’rising in our lives right now.

Before I say more about what that is for me, let me say that the reason I’m starting with old pattern clearance is that my guidance informs me that the nature of the times – the nature of these large influxes of light, solar rays, radiation and etc – the nature of these is to reveal.Revealing both what we’ll feel as positive and what we might call negative.  It reveals what is hidden – the hidden good, bad, ugly, new and old.
 
As well, the light and energy reveals further levels, levels previously difficult to reach.  These are deeper layers of old patterns that we’ve seen and worked through before, for instance.  So more frequent cleansing and release is quite important now.  

Thus the course starts with clearing and will offer other moments along the way for that to continue as needed, allowing gentle on-going release and avoiding the build-up, swings and physical challenges that might otherwise occur.

Now.  Back to my tooth. One of the many models I find useful for looking at what’s behind a physical challenge is called Bio Decoding.  It’s along the line of Louise Hay’s ideas on this but more in depth and specific.

In Bio Decoding, the tooth in question for me right now has this potential underlying issue: “Conflict originating with the father or authority figures over what you wish to present to the world.”  For information about bio decoding here’s a website and wonderful practitioner. 

So no surprise, as soon as I decide to present something to the world here comes this old conflict… another layer of a pattern I’ve seen many times in my life.  One I, of course, hoped I was done with at last.

You can sympathize, I’m sure, because most of us are having our own versions of this.  Dealing now with my fears and conflicts about presenting work to the world, I’ve been doing dream work, wisdom seeking, alternative healing and so forth – as well as tending to the matter professionally of course.  It’s coming along nicely. (more…)